Susan Stubbings
Therapeutic Counsellor & Counselling Supervision

Counselling is a talking therapy, taking place in a confidential and non-judgmental space for you to explore confusion, disorientation, fear, pain and life's difficult conundrums. ​

 

 I am a professional counsellor and supervisor with over 20 years experience,  a Registered and Accredited member of BACP,  British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, Reg.MBACP (Accred), the largest  professional association for members of the counselling professions here in the UK.   This means by assessment my practice has been recognised and met BACP  higher standards as a competent, ethical and independent practitioner, to support others with  mental and emotional health issues.

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Therapy with me

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Is practical, realistic, compassionate and very passionately human, meeting you where you are on your journey to healing.  From a relational perspective, I offer you authentic relational presence, grounded  in transparency, in a confidential  environment,  I will listen and hear you.  Offering time and attention within an empathetic relationship which is aware, skilled, knowledgeable and promotes understanding, self-awareness, choice and voice, all  positive effects of  emotional intelligence.

 

Emotional intelligence doesn't come easy to those who suffer especially from Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE's).   Those who have been traumatised, abused or neglected and if your focus has been on surviving rather than living a fulfilling and happy life, our nervous systems never had time to self-regulate.  Dysregulated nervous systems go forward into adult living, creating stress, anxiety, depression, unfulfillment, restlessness in relationships and much much more.   Many mental illness are pathologized through the medical model and drugs are considered the norm to 'fix' mental illness. 

 

I offer a different perspective that traumatic symptoms are normal responses to abnormal behaviours of others toward us., we got hurt through relationships and the paradox is we can heal through relationship.  The therapeutic relationship offers the best conditions to empathic healing and is unconditional, non-judgmental, consistent, honest and collaborative.  

 

Through my personal lived experiencing and healing I have learnt emotions are a great source of information, I can be my own worst enemy and my own best friend and saviour, just because I didn't have emotional intelligence I can learn it bringing about healing from deep deep emotional and psychological wounds.  Healing is an on-going process but the adventure is well worth all the effort. 

 

Like a lighthouse supporting you through the stormy waters of life, finding the light within the darkness.  Offering you creative expertise for you to express your thoughts, feelings, somatic  and spiritual experiences, to clarify, heal and/or find solutions for that which restricts or causes you pain.  You choose what to bring into your session to reflect upon, collaboratively we will foster your healing and if you choose your personal grow and development.